Message for November 2019
In a world of uncertainty and nebulousness, one thing is abundantly clear: we are all living in tumultuous and turbulent times. Energetically, physically, emotionally, spiritually, politically and morally, the ground is shifting from beneath our feet and it’s bewildering, confusing and exhausting, all at the same time. Just as we feel as though things are settling, something else rocks the boat and sends us into another spin, then another. We barely have time to catch our breath or steady ourselves before the next challenge begins.
We have each been challenged this year on so many levels, and there have been moments of intense highs, but many moments of intense lows. Mainly though there has been a deep sense of unknowable shift, a feeling that everything is changing although we cannot make sense of those changes as they’re still too nebulous and out of reach to understand. We have more questions than answers, and yet more questions without answers that continue to surface. We hope these changes are positive and life-affirming, but there is still an air of trepidation that more storms are on the horizon. Of course, there will always be storms as they’re a part of life, but many of us are weary and battle-worn, needing hope not challenge, joy not pain.
It seems important that we each learn how to let these feelings and emotions follow their own path, to travel through our lives like a feather in the wind being gently carried along. Even when a storm hits, the feather is buffeted around, but when the clouds disperse, it gets picked up and carried along once again. Yet, observing these emotions isn’t the same as wallowing in them. Being mindful of the feelings isn’t the same as diving into them head-first. Whilst it’s important to allow ourselves to fully feel and experience this journey, it’s also important not to be consumed by it.
Of course, many do become consumed by the intoxication of confusion and overwhelm, but this isn’t to be judged, they should be loved and shown compassion, understanding and patience. We all have moments when it all gets too much, and it’s easy to under-estimate the value of a smiling face or a hand reaching out when we’re in the darker moments.
Part of the lesson this year seems connected in transmuting pain into joy, loss into love and life into purpose. It’s time to clear away the obstacles we’ve placed within our hearts and souls in order to live life in more awakened and connected ways. Yes, this means feeling even more, but unless we can wholeheartedly feel, how can we truly live?
So many of us live in a virtual world, surrounded by technology and concrete, disconnected from nature and the earth. It’s no wonder so few can see the pain of Mother Earth, as we live in a world of soundbites and instantaneous connection and expectation. This way of living leads to parts of the soul withering away through lack of use as many of our natural instincts that allow us to interact freely and spiritually become locked in, isolated and disregarded.
It’s time now to accept that our thoughts, beliefs and actions ultimately shape and define our existence. This is a time of unity not separation, compassion not hate, love not pain. Whilst we will all experience all of these, it’s important to reach out now, to walk hand in hand with others, and to find a new way of being human…
For now, I wish you all kinds of wonderful.
November looks set to be a month of insight and discovery as you continue to connect to your true sense of self. Although you have always had a good sense of your true essence and purpose, life has often got in the way and, over time, this has faded from view by the many different things to do, people to see, places to go and distractions to explore. At the same time, you have also strived to keep others happy and ‘do the right thing’ even when your own needs have been compromised. As a result, there is a sense that you’ve been feeling somewhat bent out of shape in life, as though you’ve been trying to be someone you’re not, and whilst you seem quite content, intuitively you know that there is a whisper of discord between your soul and the outer façade you present to the world.
Of course, everyone has a façade, it’s just that yours seems to have slowly moved further away from the life that makes you heart sing and soul glow warm. You keep on keeping on, trying to do more, be more and achieve more, but there are threads of discontent weaving their way within. When you tap into this discontent, you want nothing more than to run for the hills in order to shake off the façade and reconnect to the ‘real you’, whilst this is understandable, it’s important to realise that even the façade is the real you, it’s just another version, the one that keeps on keeping on. So, instead of running for the hills (after all, the only person you’re running from is yourself), maybe it’s time now to love all aspects of yourself wholeheartedly and to give your true essence the room the move freely…
Over the course of your life, you have accumulated a great deal of ‘stuff’: memories, experiences, learning, books and a great deal of things you’ve kept ‘just in case’; and stuff isn’t just physical, it’s emotional and spiritual as well. Of course, most people collect these things, but there’s a sense that you’re somewhat more fastidious than others! As a result, a large proportion of this ‘stuff’ is surplus to the requirements of your everyday life, but you carry it around within your head, heart and soul, ‘just in case’. Whilst there’s much to be said for being prepared for any eventuality, there is a sense that carrying around so many boxes marked ‘miscellaneous’ just in case you need them has started to weigh you down, and much of your energy is focused on carrying them rather than on living your life.
There is a part of your soul jostling for space now; it’s as though your spirit wants to stretch out and breathe deeply once again, yet these boxes are in the way, towering high in places in fairly chaotic fashion as boxes marked ‘miscellaneous’ are hard to order as not even you know what’s inside them anymore. You seem to have reached a chapter of change in your life, one unlike previous periods of shift in that the change is more inner than outer, it’s more heart and soul. This change is coming from a deep longing to set yourself free, to have the confidence to let at least some of these boxes go, trusting that if you do need their contents again in the future, you can tap into your phenomenal intuition and wisdom in order to find a way forward. Sometimes the only way to move forward is to let go of what’s behind you…
There are times in your life when everything feels heavy and cumbersome, as though there are simply too many things to do, people to see, places to go and things to achieve. And then there are times when your life feels a tad empty, as though nothing has any true meaning anymore. It’s important not to forget the times when you are feeling whimsical and reflective, or the times when you are highly motivated and inspired. And then there are the other 98% of times, the humdrum, run of the mill times called everyday life. As a spiritual and intellectual soul, it’s easy for you to explore new realms of consciousness and to seek out deeper meaning and purpose, yet there is a sense that when life gets a bit ‘run of the mill’, you feel flat and rudderless as though someone has knocked the wind out of your sails.
Life is a hotchpotch collection of experiences, and whilst there is a lot of humdrum, pedestrian keeping on keeping on, this is the essential needlework that holds everything together. The rest (those inspirational highs and lows) reflect passing moments, fleeting experiences of reflectiveness, sadness, inspiration and joy. Although you would love to see more of these enriched moments in your life, you realise that the humdrum brings context and meaning to the ups and downs of life. Yet, there is a part of you that wants more: more highs, more creative acrobatics, more innovative ideas and more spiritual meaning. Whilst this is only natural, it’s important to realise that this oscillation is needed, as without this context, everything will likely feel meaningless and without purpose. So, try to enjoy your soul pirouetting through life, let your spirit dance freely and savour your creative prowess. In short, be yourself and love yourself for it…
In many ways, your life is like a baking project: the cake is your life, the toppings are the skills and gifts you bring, and the filling is your willingness to be the glue that holds it all together. You have spent a great deal of your life being the coffee buttercream in the coffee and walnut cake, or the strawberry jam in the Victoria sponge cake. You have given so much to being the best person you can be and trying to hold everything together that you’ve grown bored of the same old cakes, day after day. You know you have the skill to bake new cakes and to explore new ideas, but you are so used to being the glue, you are finding it hard to extricate yourself as a cake without filling is like jelly and no ice cream.
At the same time, it’s not just being the glue, it’s also being the best possible glue as well as you often feel that you should do more, be more and achieve more. So, as well as trying to hold everything (and everyone) together, you are also giving yourself a hard time for not being ‘better’. Yet, why do you feel you have to be the perfect glue? Why do you have to be glue at all? What drives you to place yourself directly in the middle of the great big cake of life?. Whilst life can create obstacles and responsibilities, you seem ready now to seek out a different way of living your life, one that allows you to breathe more freely and lets you snaffle those delicious toppings (your gifts) and to bake a new cake of your own design as you live the life you were born to live…
November looks set to be a month where you continue to seek out balance in your life as you prepare for some twists and turns ahead. It’s important not to make assumptions that twists or turns mean challenges and tribulations, they don’t. Not always. Whilst your path is always curved and never straight, there is a sense you have always thrived on the meandering nature of the journey of your life. Yet, there is a part of you fed up with dallying and zigzagging as it feels like time wasting and you want to charge ahead and get to your chosen destination as soon as possible. Of course, intuitively you know just how much extra ‘value’ you get when you meander as it’s often the path less travelled where new insights and deeper wisdom reside, yet you remain keen to get from where you are to where you want to be as quickly as possible. Why? What’s the rush? This is an important question to ask yourself as it shapes and defines the course of your life.
At the same time, you seem so keen to get from where you are to ‘where you want to be’, but when did you last pause and contemplate the shape and form of what that actually is? In other words, have you honed and sharpened your dream lately? Are you still sure you want to head ‘over there’? In short, this is an important time for you to re-shape and re-define your hopes, goals and dreams. You simply aren’t the same person you were a few months ago as you’ve shifted on so many different levels. Dreams are for evolving, people are for changing and ‘over there’ is for moving, so instead of charging ahead, take a breath and let your intuition lead the way…
As the wisdom continues to rise up within your heart and soul, it seems you are beginning to find a deeper sense of peace, as well as a more profound sense of purpose, in your life. You spend a great deal of your life thinking about your life, trying to make sense as to why things are the way they are and trying to answer some of life’s great unanswered questions. Yet, you are not lost in your busy head as you find ways to channel your gifts into creative and meaningful tasks. You let thoughts, ideas and feelings flow through you like running water; as though you are standing in a brook and everything babbles along over you, refreshing you in every moment. The free spirit within you thrives on having the space to explore life from every angle and to take time out when needed to just rest and be.
However, there is a part of you that struggles with your carefree nature; this part of you is much more ordered, structured and in need of routine. As a result, there can often be a bit of a tousle in your heart and soul as you pull in different directions, trying to be the free spirit, but wanting to do so in an orderly fashion! Whilst these two aspects of you are very different, they are still both a part of you so it’s important to befriend them both and find ways for them to work together rather than pulling you in opposing directions. It may not be obvious how to have an orderly free spirit, but with your capacity to think outside the box, there is a way, you just need to believe it. Don’t look for reasons not to, instead open up to flourishing, thriving and living the best life possible…
As you continue to re-calibrate the great big weighing scales of your life, there is a sense you are beginning to relax a bit more when it comes to making decisions and choices. In many ways, there is a sense of self-imposed pressure to get life ‘right’ and you often judge yourself very harshly for ‘mistakes’. Yet, what you see as a mistake is more just a part of the inevitable journey of life as we all make ‘wrong’ turns and meander off course. However, whilst most people acknowledge this and move on, you find it somewhat harder as you want to know what went wrong, why, how and who etc. Of course, knowing such things can help you understand yourself better and also maybe help you to avoid making the same ‘mistakes’ again, but there is a risk that focusing too hard on what you get wrong, rather than on what you get right, can leave you with a skewed sense of self.
Life is a moveable object; mistakes and wrong turns are inevitable and can assist in making you more self-aware, self-compassionate and tender. Within your heart and soul you are something of a free spirit and if you’re too hard on yourself, there is a chance that you end up caging your soaring spirit as you find reasons ‘not to’ or delve ever more deeply into ‘what went wrong’; please stop giving yourself a hard time. Understanding is of course a good thing, but so is acknowledging the situation and moving on as you create space for new opportunities and experiences, otherwise a log jam can form. It’s time now to let go of the cycle of self-judgement and instead start to allow more inwardly focused compassion and tenderness into your heart and soul…
November looks set to be a month of clarity, insight and inspiration as you have been shedding a great deal of detritus recently, particularly of the energetic and emotional kind. Detritus is ‘stuff’ that takes up plenty of space in your consciousness, but it doesn’t seem to serve any real or clearly defined purpose. Everyone has detritus, it’s not always ‘bad’, it’s just stuff, often head clutter. However, when too much detritus starts to build up it can choke and stifle the flow of your life, leaving you feeling discombobulated and out of sorts, wondering where you are (and why) in the bigger picture of your life. You have experienced more than your fair share of storms creating unrest within your heart and soul, often bringing about a shake-up of your hopes and dreams. As each storm has come and gone, there is a sense that the clear skies revealed after the storm clouds have passed has been dazzling and full of inspiration and hope.
In truth, there is a part of you that loves a good storm: the intense energies allow you to access your own inner storms and transmute these in new ways, blasting lots of the detritus into oblivion. Of course, not every storm has a silver lining and there is no doubt that you’ve had to face some big challenges in your life, but your enthusiasm, passion and zest for life has enabled you to deal with these with courage and strength. Your tendency to look deeply within can often whip up a storm as you have a phenomenal and formidable power to break through inertia and initiate change. As the storm clouds begin to pass and the sun starts to shine, open up your heart and soul towards the wisdom rising up from within…
In many ways you are one of life’s chameleons with a gobsmacking ability to shapeshift as, and when, the need arises. Your stealth, wisdom and quick mind allow you to bend and flex as the need dictates, enabling you to adapt to most situations you find yourself in. Shapeshifting is an artform and you seem to have mastered it over the years, however there is a sense that you are so good at it these days, you often do it without even realising. This enables you to glide through life with relative ease, but it’s important to be aware of this tendency otherwise you can get lost in the moment and disconnected from your true sense of self. That’s the main issue with being a chameleon: if left unchecked, you can lose sight of where you end and where the bending and flexing begins.
Being so fluid has enabled you to explore so much in life, but there’s a sense that being more present in the moment is something you need now as there are some important decisions to make about what happens next. Now, this isn’t to say that being a shape-shifting chameleon is a bad thing, it’s just that it can sometimes take over and take you away from riding on the crest of the leading waves of life. You are a vibrant, passionate, inspirational soul and it’s important to be conscious and aware of this in order to channel it in positive ways in your life. The risk with bending and flexing is a disconnect from rolling up your sleeves and getting stuck in as you become more ethereal and less earth based. You seem ready now to explore new terrain as you ground yourself more in the moment and find new ways to flourish, blossom and thrive…
You’ve always been a bit of a stickler for doing things properly; you have a motto that if something needs doing, then do it properly (and do it well). Of course, ‘properly’ is an individual thing as everyone has a different version as to what it means to them, however, you have a fairly clear idea as to the ‘right’ way and the not so right way! Whilst you are open-minded about the digital age, you still see the value in a pen and paper, a book or even a DVD or CD (or perhaps a vinyl!), you won’t dismiss something because it seems outdated if it still has worth and works well. When you look at your smartphone, if you have one, you don’t take it for granted, you sometimes look at it in awe for making phone calls, texts, emails, storing pictures, music, films and books (and much more).
Your ability to merge the old with the new looks set to serve you well now as there is a sense that you are on the verge of a new chapter in your life, one that seems to span the past and the present, the present and the future. It’s hard to distil and condense into something coherent to articulate and explain, but it feels exciting and tantalising, as though you are about to wholeheartedly embrace a new way of living and being. It’s your open-mindedness that leads the way, but do be mindful of your sometimes stubborn, resistance to change, as a self-imposed impasse at this stage could thwart opportunities; just because it looks different to your ‘right’ way, don’t dismiss it out of hand. Open up your mind to new experiences and intuitively know that there is often more than one path to the same destination…
You are a natural-born visionary, often gazing ahead towards the horizon with a knowing sense of direction and purpose. Your instincts invariably prove to be correct (when you listen to them!) as you have an almost uncanny knack for knowing when to act, when to wait or when to walk away. Of course, there are always times when you misjudge this, but these thankfully seem to be few and far between, and you always seek to learn from these experiences, enabling you to grow and evolve with an open heart and mind. Being a visionary brings you great wisdom in life, but there is a risk that you may start looking too intently towards the future, rather than focusing on the here and now. Whilst you do gain context from gazing backwards and forwards in time, it’s important to notice where you are now as well as this is the only true reference point you have.
None of this is new to you, but there is sometimes a need to point it out as you can stop noticing the bigger picture of your life. Try not to let the grass grow from under your feet as it may trip you up, leaving you faltering and confused. This isn’t to say that you should stop being a visionary, far from it in fact, it’s more a gentle reminder to keep the context of the present moment so what you both see, and feel, makes sense. Sometimes, the more you focus on the here and now, and the less you focus on the path ahead, the more insight and wisdom you can glean, as it’s only in the present moment where you can truly connect to your sense of self and essence. Set your essence free and be here now…
November looks set to be a month for reflection and contemplation as you consider the life you’ve lived and the life you’re living, as well as thinking about the life you’d still like to live in terms of your hopes and dreams. This isn’t an exercise you do very often as it can feel like a million miles away from your massive ‘to do’ list of things to do, people to save, places to go and stuff to achieve. Oops, did that say people to save? Well, yes! There is a part of you that thrives on feeling needed and this often pushes you towards over-giving and over-sacrificing your own wants, needs, energy and being. It’s important that you have a sense as to why you give so much of yourself, as there is an obvious conclusion that it’s because others take and you give, but maybe you just give a bit too freely? This isn’t a criticism, just an observation, and we live in a world where we need givers rather than takers. However, there is a risk that you over-give to feel better about yourself and this needs to be explored as it can deplete you on all levels.
You are possibly one of the most loving, giving, compassionate and generous souls around, but you fail abysmally at showing any of these qualities to yourself. There is no obvious reason for this, but it really does need to change if you are ever to achieve the promised land of inner peace and contentment that you have been searching for. Giving is great, over-giving to the point of depletion isn’t. Saving others is admirable, but sometimes they can only save themselves. This is a month for some self-preservation and self-awareness as you slowly start to find ways of drawing boundaries and shining that glittering heart of yours back towards amazing yourself…